φωτογραφία: Rebecca Carpenter Photography μέσω The Stars Inside
Tell your nearest and dearest first. “Αν και μια απόδραση είναι μια απίστευτα οικεία εμπειρία για το ζευγάρι, it may feel like a slap in the face to family and friends who hoped to be included. While you can’t avoid hurt feelings entirely, there are some ways to soften the blow. Tell your closest family and friends about your elopement promptly after the ceremony, αν είναι δυνατόν (Or if you feel comfortable telling them beforehand, go ahead and do it!). If you can’t tell them in person, give them a phone call (texting just isn’t personal enough for such big news). Be open and honest about the reasons why you and your partner chose to elope, and perhaps consider celebrating with them shortly afterwards with a celebratory cocktail hour or backyard BBQ reception.” —Τζένα Μίλερ, Δημιουργικός Διευθυντής του Εδώ έρχεται ο οδηγός
Then make the announcement. “Send out ‘We did it!’ photo cards to anyone else you would have normally invited to a ‘traditional’ γάμος. If you do decide to host a post-elopement celebration, you can include the details in your marriage announcement. And if you’re into social media, now’s the time to make it ‘official’ by posting a photo or video announcement, or updating your status to ‘Married'” -Μυλωνάς
Stay true to your values. “If you’ve made the wonderful decision of eloping and are now ready to break the news, my advice would be to be open with friends and family from the start, so that expectations are managed and there is no pressure on you. Share the news with family and friends in a positive, προσεκτικός, and honest way. It may be that some family members will express disappointment or surprise when you tell them, but stay strong and true to your values — the older generations wouldn’t really have had this option available to them, and may not understand what it really means to have an elopement these days.” —Valentina Ring, Ιδιοκτήτης + Lead Planner, The Stars Inside
Consider an elopement celebration party! “Once you’ve had a chance to let your friends and family know, and if it feels right for you, you could even host an intimate elopement celebration party! You could print your favorite photos from the trip into a little album, or play the film of the day if you had a videographer join you.” —Ring
Το πιο σημαντικό: never feel guilty for choosing to elope. “The most important of all is: don’t ever feel guilty. It’s understandable if you’re feeling worried that your choice may be seen as ‘selfish’ — but it absolutely isn’t. There is nothing selfish about wanting to spend the day you get married with the person you are marrying, and there isn’t a rule that says that anybody has the right to be at your wedding. Αν το σκεφτείτε, there are ways in which a larger wedding could even be seen as selfish — asking people to take time off work, to travel, to purchase new clothes maybe, to buy gifts, book accommodation, and give up weekend time to be where you want them to be. The same way guests will do all of the above gladly for the people they love, so can all your family and friends rejoice in accepting your elopement decision. So let go of this burden, and enjoy every moment of having done what’s right for you, for all the right reasons.” —Ring